Living in a box

When we feel unloved or unworthy, we instinctively create a "Safety Box." This box becomes our refuge from the pain of rejection and the fear of not being enough. We lock ourselves inside, believing it will shield us from hurtful narratives. But as we grow, we may find that this box begins to resemble a prison, filled with limiting beliefs about who we are and who we should be.

As children, our self-worth is shaped by the beliefs and stories we hear from others, parents, friends, society. We absorb these narratives, often without questioning them, as we seek love and safety. These early beliefs can validate our feelings of worthiness and help us cope with the world around us. However, many of these beliefs may not be our own; they belong to others and can confine us in ways we may not even recognize.

The Illusion of Safety

We gather stories that dictate our worth, capabilities, and identity. We tell ourselves that we must meet specific expectations—often dictated by family or societal structure.

But as we begin to recognize the constraints of our box, we may feel a flicker of curiosity about what lies beyond its walls. Initially, the outside world seems daunting, as our minds have conditioned us to believe it is unsafe. However, as we cultivate awareness, we find the courage to peek outside. We discover that the world is indeed brighter and filled with potential.

Finding the Key

The journey of self-discovery requires confronting our fears and challenging the narratives that have kept us captive. We realize that we already possess the key to our own liberation—a key that has always been within us. With newfound courage, we can unlock the door of our Safety Box and step into the unknown. We are never victim of our own conditioning, we can always choose.

Trusting our Intuition

Connecting with our true selves and trusting our intuition are essential steps in breaking free from these believes. As we step outside the box, we begin to embrace our authentic selves. We learn to trust our instincts and redefine our worth based on our values and lived experiences. For example, someone who grew up believing they should suppress artistic talents to meet a family’s expectations might discover joy in painting again after stepping out of the box.

Embracing Freedom

Living in a box may seem safe, but it ultimately limits our potential. By recognizing the conditioning that shaped our beliefs, we can begin to dismantle the walls of our Safety Box. As we connect within and trust our intuition, we open ourselves to endless possibilities. The journey may be daunting, but the freedom that awaits us is worth every step. Stepping out of the box is a challenging but vital journey toward self-acceptance and authenticity.

Let’s find that key and step into the light of our true selves.

As an Intuitive Counsellor,

I help guide others back to this quiet wisdom —

to their own intuition,

to the truth of their authentic self.

— Natasha

Intuitive Counsellor and Teacher of Presence

(Eckhart Tolle’s School of Awakening)

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